Doubts & concerns. A normal part of growing up.

6 months is a long time and yet it seems to go so quickly! That is how long it has been since I last wrote on here and I feel so awful for the fact I haven’t been keeping in touch more, but life has been busy both in and out of work and to be honest, I’m not going to beat myself up for enjoying myself a little.

For a while I thought about taking the blog down as I didn’t have the time I used to to devote to something which I created from scratch. Also, people change. The plans I had when this blog was started are so different now and I think that if anything my blog just needs a refresh. The most helpful posts for me have always been ones which are really open and real so instead of talking about fashion and beauty quite so much, I’ll be focussing more on real life. Of course, I still love all that stuff and that will feature, but think of this as a real insight into the life of your very average 20-something woman!

So what has been on my mind lately? For me it has been about whether I am good enough. What do I mean by that? Well some of the things which feature:

  • Am I being a good enough friend/girlfriend?
  • Could I be doing more at work/professionally?
  • Am I too fat and should I be working out more?
  • Am I too hard on myself and worrying about nothing?

The list goes on and on, but you get the picture. The worst part is, I know I am not alone in these thoughts as these are fears a lot of people I know also share in one way or another.

I work so hard and put my all into everything that I do and sometimes it just doesn’t seem enough. Sometimes I can’t be bothered to go for a run or a bike ride, sometimes I would rather just stay in all weekend rather than going out. Luckily, as someone who tries to look at everything from an optimistic point of view, I don’t get stuck in that slump for too long, but it does happen. Take the blog as a perfect example, I started something which I feel like I haven’t been able to finish. At one point it was something which felt like it defined me and now it’s not so great.

And why do we feel like this from time to time? The answer is that we compare ourselves to others!

When you compare yourself to others it is so easy to get in a rut. No two stories are the same, so how can you properly compare? Someone else may seem to have more in one aspect, but without a doubt they look at you and see something that they would like to have just as much.  Instead of focussing on what everyone else has that you wish you did, write a little list of the things you know you do well or have in your life to be positive about. It doesn’t have to be a long list, but the more you can add the better, even small things like smiling at strangers as that goes a long way for some!

I’d love to hear how you feel about this post! What are you biggest fears and concerns? Do you think you are too hard on yourself? Let me know in the comments below 🙂

Lots of love, Leanne xx

Welcome back!

Welcome back!

Hey everyone, I know it has been ages since I last posted and for that I am sorry, although really the biggest apology that I owe is to myself.

I spent a lot of time and effort setting up my blog and I loved writing and sharing my take on everything from fashion to foundation! A lot has changed in the past few months though, some of which I will share with you in my writing, but it was a perfect storm of life changing events and for a while I kind of lost myself without even realising. It’s funny how you don’t realise how something has changed until it gets back to normal. Like if you’ve ever lost your hearing because of a cold and then one day it suddenly comes back and you realise how amazing it is to hear properly again. That’s what happened to me recently and I realised I needed to stop being unmotivated and get my shine back again and here I am.

I realised as well since I was last here that even if I am not feeling great about myself and the way I look or do makeup or dress, there is always someone else out there who looks at you and thinks “wow I wish I could do that” and that really motivated me to not let those people down.

So here I am, pretty much the same old me but definitely a bit older and perhaps even a bit wiser now too. So what will I be talking about here now? Pretty much the same stuff from my favourite fashions, my go to make-up, real world weight loss struggles, image advice but most importantly this will be a place for me to come and be myself, so I hope you all like it  🙂

Lots of love, Leanne

Slimming World – weightloss update

Hey everyone, check me out posting on the regs again! It feels nice to be getting back to some routine, but I still have a long way to go to get ahead of myself! I probably shouldn’t feel too proud as this is just the kicking off of my weekly Slimming World post but it is better than nothing right? 🙂

So quick update for you all! I have lost 7lbs in total since beginning Slimming World. I feel like it should have been way more by now, but being ill and going away set me back a few lbs so here I am! I’m getting close to my interim target though so a bit of focus is required to do all I can to get down to my ideal weight. I’ve also made steps to move to a new gym and get back into a good fitness routine as everything I have been doing recently has been a bit adhoc which I am actually super excited for!

My interim target is a 10lb loss and my final target is currently set at 17lbs so actually so far so good I guess!

Meal of the week:

This one is a bit tricky as to be honest I haven’t really been eating many proper dinners due to being so busy, however this has been a great opportunity to try out the Iceland Slimming World ready meals. I was sceptical but actually they are delicious, convenient and way healthier than any other ready meal I have ever eaten! And even better they are great portion sizes so I definitely don’t feel hungry after eating one 🙂

Don’t forget to share with me your favourite healthy recipes in the comments below as I always need new kitchen inspiration!

I hope you enjoyed this post and dont forget to look out for more over the next few weeks 🙂

Lots of love, Leanne xx

No Shit November – Wrap Up

No Shit November Wrap Up

Hey everyone,

I’m so sorry that I haven’t posted in a while! I have been so busy with gymnastics and just exhausted from general life that I haven’t had the brain capacity to write anything good!

But I am back now and thought I would wrap up No Shit November for you 🙂

So despite it not going quite to plan, I currently weight 9stone 12lbs and have a 27 inch waist. I’m pretty in proportion elsewhere with measurements currently being 36 – 27 – 35 however I would like to get all of those down if possible.

Onwards and upwards for me now though! I have just started at a new gym and completed my very first Body Combat class today and wow I can feel the ache already. As well as that I’ve also started horse riding which is amazing exercise and am planning with my brother to start a food diary too so hopefully it wont be long before I see those numbers going down 🙂

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I’ll keep you all posted on the remainder of my journey and wish you all the best in your journey!

Also, I have created a blog snapchat now so you can add me there at Lifestyle4less as well as following me on Twitter and Instagram 🙂

Lots of love, Leanne xx

Appearance Anxiety

Hey everyone, it’s time again for another blog post (I must admit I’m feeling pretty proud of myself for fitting two posts in this week for the first time in ages!) and this time I thought I would write about something which I’m actually fairly ashamed to say is on my mind most of the time!

Needless to say, following my holiday and a wisdom tooth extraction I feel like I’ve put on a few pounds and gained back inches which I worked so hard to lose in the first place. As much as it is frustrating I also feel like it is a huge knock to my body confidence which I was working so hard to build.

Even more frustrating though is that I feel like it is something I think about all the time. Whether it is worrying about whether an outfit I am wearing is flattering, to comparing myself to other girls, I feel that I am holding myself to potentially unobtainable standards, which cannot be good for anyone!

So basically this post is here to lay it all on the line and let you all know that despite the bubbly and outgoing exterior and multiple post on my social media channels detailing every aspect of my life, particularly how I look, I am extremely self-conscious. I always have been and assume that I always will be. But life is too short to worry about it all the time so I am going to make a very real effort to not worry and to embrace my appearance. So what if my arms aren’t as thin as other peoples or if my tummy isn’t as flat, there are a million other things which I have going for me and I should value myself higher than that.

It’s hard though, living in a world of photoshopped images which aren’t clearly labelled and “standard sizes” in stores often being size 6! It’s a constant barrage of noise telling you that you should look different (better?) than you do currently. And if it is affecting me, a pretty together twenty something, then what on earth is it doing to the teens of today who see “perfect” bodies everywhere. Yes there is the #curvee revolution, but is that really an attainable and healthy ideal? What I want is more diversity, in the campaigns we see from fashion retailers. I want to see a group of women which represent me and my friends in the clothes they are selling.

If this is the scale of difference that can be achieved with photoshop how are we supposed to be body confident?

If this is the scale of difference that can be achieved with photoshop how are we supposed to be body confident?

Phew…rant over! I really just wanted to give you a snapshot of how I feel on a “fat day” and the constant worries that I have every time I pick out an outfit! As much as it sounds pretty bad, I wanted to let all of you out there know that you are not the only one feeling that way, so please don’t worry or feel down, and instead of seeing all the negatives and focussing your attentions solely on them, look for the positives instead!

For me, I’m going to continue to go to the gym and eat healthily purely because it makes me feel healthy and energetic and if a by-product of this healthier lifestyle is losing a couple of pounds and inches then good!

A  "perfect" body?

A “perfect” body?

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Me on my last holiday

I’m going to make sure to include how I am feeling in my future fitness and nutrition posts to stick to my plan for more confidence and less concern!

I hope you found this post helpful! I’d love to know if you have similar thoughts or feelings and if so what you do to get over them! Please let me know in the comments as I always love to hear from you 🙂 As always please like, share, comment and subscribe and stay tuned for the next post!

Lots of love, Leanne xx