Doubts & concerns. A normal part of growing up.

6 months is a long time and yet it seems to go so quickly! That is how long it has been since I last wrote on here and I feel so awful for the fact I haven’t been keeping in touch more, but life has been busy both in and out of work and to be honest, I’m not going to beat myself up for enjoying myself a little.

For a while I thought about taking the blog down as I didn’t have the time I used to to devote to something which I created from scratch. Also, people change. The plans I had when this blog was started are so different now and I think that if anything my blog just needs a refresh. The most helpful posts for me have always been ones which are really open and real so instead of talking about fashion and beauty quite so much, I’ll be focussing more on real life. Of course, I still love all that stuff and that will feature, but think of this as a real insight into the life of your very average 20-something woman!

So what has been on my mind lately? For me it has been about whether I am good enough. What do I mean by that? Well some of the things which feature:

  • Am I being a good enough friend/girlfriend?
  • Could I be doing more at work/professionally?
  • Am I too fat and should I be working out more?
  • Am I too hard on myself and worrying about nothing?

The list goes on and on, but you get the picture. The worst part is, I know I am not alone in these thoughts as these are fears a lot of people I know also share in one way or another.

I work so hard and put my all into everything that I do and sometimes it just doesn’t seem enough. Sometimes I can’t be bothered to go for a run or a bike ride, sometimes I would rather just stay in all weekend rather than going out. Luckily, as someone who tries to look at everything from an optimistic point of view, I don’t get stuck in that slump for too long, but it does happen. Take the blog as a perfect example, I started something which I feel like I haven’t been able to finish. At one point it was something which felt like it defined me and now it’s not so great.

And why do we feel like this from time to time? The answer is that we compare ourselves to others!

When you compare yourself to others it is so easy to get in a rut. No two stories are the same, so how can you properly compare? Someone else may seem to have more in one aspect, but without a doubt they look at you and see something that they would like to have just as much.  Instead of focussing on what everyone else has that you wish you did, write a little list of the things you know you do well or have in your life to be positive about. It doesn’t have to be a long list, but the more you can add the better, even small things like smiling at strangers as that goes a long way for some!

I’d love to hear how you feel about this post! What are you biggest fears and concerns? Do you think you are too hard on yourself? Let me know in the comments below 🙂

Lots of love, Leanne xx

Empowerment and emotions

I’m not going to lie, I haven’t put a great deal of thought into this blog post, but I have to keep in the habit of posting at least once a week!

Problem is, right now, my brain is frazzled, with so much going on at home and with work being busier than ever, when I get home all I want to do is chill out and do nothing and yet instead here I am forcing myself to write. And why? Well actually, I wanted to share how I was feeling with you all as I’m sure that you guys must feel like this to from time to time and do you know what? That is totally okay!

Recently I’ve felt stressed and yet empowered all at the same time and on other days I can feel completely empty, not wanting to talk to anyone when I get home from work and instead just laying not doing anything. It’s alright though, these thoughts are normal and acceptable and should be accepted. I know that not feeling positive and with it all of the time has been an adjustment for me, but actually I think that my feelings are making me a better person. I am more introspective and self aware and understanding to others when they are down.

And besides I’m changing as a person, we all are all the time and if that person I’m changing to is more open with their emotions, then I’ll embrace that whole heartedly. I’m proud of my changes!

Lots of love, Leanne